Suffering Through Chocolate

What is desirable? What attracts people to certain things? Can getting what you desire or not getting what you desire cause suffering? Is suffering desirable? These are the questions that we discussed in class this week. The topic: desire.

Everyone has different desires depending upon who they are and what they like. Desire can come in many forms. It can be something we want, need, are attracted to, or even something we love. Getting or not getting what you desire, though can cause suffering. For example, if a woman were to desire chocolate, if she got her desire, then she may feel suffering afterwards because of the weight she gained from eating all the chocolate. Not getting what you desire can also lead to suffering. For example, if someone desires someones else because they are in love, not getting that loved one can cause suffering. On the other hand, not getting or getting what you desire can also lead to happiness. If the woman doesn't eat the chocolate she desires, then she'll be happy because she won't gain weight. And if someone gets the person they love and desire, they will experience absolute happiness. Every experience with desire is different and therefore whether or not getting your desire will cause suffering or happiness will vary. It's hard to decide which desires are good and bad, though, because desire is a strong emotion. Wanting something differs from desire in that it isn't as strong of an emotion. Desire is wanting something, but wanting something badly enough that sometimes it will hurt if you don't get it.

In Siddartha, Siddartha is not sure of what he desires, he's just sure of what he doesn't desire. He is looking for something, but he can't figure out what it is yet. On his journey, Siddartha suffers greatly because he chooses to. He feels that by suffering, he can finally figure out what it is he truly desires. In a sense, Siddartha desires to suffer in order to find what he truly desires.

In life, we all experience suffering, happiness, want, desire, love, lust, friendship, etc. But when you experience these emotions, can you truly see what effects your decisions will have? If you truly desire something, chances are you won't be able to truly comprehend the consequences of getting or not getting what you desire because your want for that object is so strong. So it just depends, what do you desire?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DvKWUsJ9qoE -- Desire by U2

It can be scary, but it can also be great

During our class on monday, I realized just how far I've come in life and how far I still have to go. We were taken out onto the football field and told to stand on the yard line that represents our age. As I gazed down to the goal line, it didn't look that far away, but as I gazed forward, I saw just how far I still have to go. Being a 17 year-old, I feel like I'm old and I feel like I've already accomplished a lot, but after seeing how many more yards I still have to go, I realize that I have so much more to offer the world and I'm not even close to where I will be in the future.

In Siddartha, Siddartha has come to feel trapped at his yard-line. His mind and curiosity represents that of an older yard-line and not the one he is currently at. So he decides to embark on a journey of independence on his own. Siddartha is a lot like high school seniors in a sense that they want to go out into the real world and separate from their parents in order to gain a sense of how the real world works. There's only so much that teachers, parents and books can teach us. There comes a point in everyone's life where it's time for them to go and experience the real world first-hand. Living at the 17 and 18 yard-line is safe, not much can happen to you there. But as you go forward, the chances of something happening increase significantly. It can be success or it can be failure, but it's from those experiences that you learn how life in the real-world works. Everyone needs to take that step forward at some point in their life. Physically you don't have a choice because age is something you cannot control. No matter what you do, every year you will move one yard forward. Mentally, though, it is something you can control. Not everyone's mental yard-line represents their physical yard-line. At some point in life, though, everyone needs to take that mental one yard step forward and into the life of independence where anything can happen. It can be scary, but it can also be great.

After living through just about 1/4 of my life, it's time for me to go out into the world on my own and to experience the real-world and college life, independently. I'm standing on the 17 yard line, almost at the 18 yard line ready to make the leap forward into the world of independence.

The Double S: Seniors and Siddartha

Today we are to being a book entitled Siddartha. From what I understand the book to be about, it will have to do a lot with what we, as seniors, are going through. I haven't started the book yet, but by hearing Mr. Burke give an overview of the story, I can see how high school seniors are easily able to relate to the story.

As seniors, it's a known fact that we are ready to graduate. It's no secret that since after day #2 of school, we were ready for graduation to come and for school to end. We love our teachers, our families, and our friends, but we all know that at this point in our life, it's time for us to move on. Siddartha, like many seniors, chooses to experience life for himself and goes on a journey of his own. Seniors are like Siddartha, because just like him, we are ready to experience life for ourselves. Sometimes it's what our parents want and other times it isn't, but at this point in our life it really isn't up to what our parents want anymore. It's time for us to make our own choices and to fail or succeed on our own. If we aren't able to do that, then it will be impossible for us to learn things on our own.

I appreciate everything that my teachers and family has done for me throughout the years and it's not a negative thing when I say, "I'm ready to move on and get out of here." It's just that at this point in my life I feel that the right thing to do is to go experience life for myself.

Things Haven't Changed As Much As We Think They Have

As one of our assignments in english class, we were given the task to write an analytical paragraph comparing and contrasting Laertes, Hamlet, Ophelia, and Fortinbras. As I was writing this, I noticed that while all the males are tough and quick to act with muscles, the only girl, Ophelia, is the opposite of that. Hamlet, Laertes, and Fortinbras all try to avenge their father's death, but Ophelia doesn't. Being in the feminist group for our group projects on Hamlet, has also given me perspective on the way women are treated in the play. They are protrayed as weak and as people who are easily controlled by the men in the play.

From my experience as being a women, I've realized that though some things about the treatment of women have changed, a lot haven't. Women do have a lot more rights now than they did back in the time Hamlet was writen, but there are still a lot of things that differ between men and women. For example, if there were to be a draft for the military, only men would be drafted, not women. Also, it's a known fact that as a man, you just don't hit a woman. Last night my guy friend and I were joking around and I was trying to get him to fight and though he said yes at first, about 12 seconds later he admitted that he could never hit a girl. Any time a guy hits a girl, he immediately puts a target on himself because it's just something you don't do. Also, in my family and other families I know, there are double standards. While the men can usually do whatever they want, the women always have to be a lot more careful than the men and are protected a lot more than the men for fear that something might happen to them.

Yes women have gotten the right to vote and yes there is a lot more equality between women and men, but no it isn't completely equal and I don't think it ever will be. There will always be double standards and there will always be differences between men and women, because let's face it there ARE differences between men and women, both physical and mental. Girls and boys are brought up differently and are conditioned differently. People won't describe a girl as big and muscular and a guy as weak and emotional because that is not what the universal belief is. In the future it may change, but I don't think it will.

You Can Only Control Your Own Life

As we read Hamlet in class, we are forced to examine our own lives in comparison to Hamlet because of the fact that we, as teenagers, are going through a lot of the same things that the characters face in the play. We are at a crossroad right now trying to choose between doing something for oursevles that we want to do, or pleasing our parents and doing something they want us to do. As we go through our journey of leaving home and as we choose a path on which to live, we may find ourselves a changed person, just as Hamlet and Ophelia have changed throughout the course of the play. Are these changes good, or will we be worse off from changing?

As it stands now, people in high school are changing, for better and worse. People are making new friends and older friends are being left out. Everyone has a right to change whether it's for the best or worst. If it's for the best, then they've chosen the right path, if it's for the worst, then it's their mistake to make. We cannot control everyone and it's inevitable that people will change and grow apart. At the end of the school year, though, we will all be on our way to college, forever changing our lives, hopefully in the best way. Some friends will grow apart and others will stay friends forever. Growing and changing is a part of life and no one and nothing can change that. You can only control your own life and as much as you may want to, you can't control the lives of others.

Though our changes and future may be vastly different from what Hamlet and Ophelia go through in Hamlet, the messages are similar. Because of certain experiences and reasons, people will change, sometimes for the better and sometimes for the worse. No matter what, though, you can't control them as much as you may want to sometimes. People must live their own lives and learn from their own mistakes if they make them. The only thing you can do is be yourself and live your life they way you want to.

Give everything you can because that’s all you have

Recently in Literature class we were given as assignment to ask two people in our lives to write us a letter about morals, values, anything that they wanted to say or felt that they should say to us about us leaving soon for college. This letter gave the loved ones in our lives a chance to say the things they've wanted to, but haven't been able to say or have forgotten to say to us.

I had my mom and my brother, who is a senior at University of Arizona, write me a letter. I thoroughly enjoyed this assignment because of the fact that while my parents have always given me advice and rules, this letter gave them the chance to say anything else they've wanted to but haven't gotten the chance to yet. Also, I've never really talked about college or the future of it with my brother all that much mostly because he's always had a hard time remembering I'm not a little kid anymore. He still thinks of me as young and innocent and not as an adult about to embark on a whole new adventure on my own. This letter, though, gave him a chance to accept that I'm about to leave home, go to college, and be independent for the first time. I really enjoyed his letter and valued the things he wrote. My favorite things that he said were, "The best advice I can offer for you in college is to make sure that you enjoy every moment of it...Good luck and always remember the people that helped get you to where you are. They are the most important people in your life and you should always realize how lucky you are." My favorite line of his whole letter, though, was "Give everything you can because that’s all you have." I know my brother is right when he says this because in college, no one knows who you are and all you have is yourself. You need to show people who you are and be yourself because there's nothing else you can do.

I think these letters were important because it allowed the loved ones in people's lives to say the things to them that they haven't been able to say yet. I think it's easier for people to write down the things they want to say rather than to say them. Emotions can get in the way of things when people are trying to express themselves and they often forget things that they wanted to say or say things that they didn't want to say. Writing is an easy way for people to truly express themselves and their feelings.

I encourage you to read this blog while listening to the song "The New Year" by Death Cab for Cutie. I feel that this song reflects people's feelings about embarking on a new adventure.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2MwhxdGAnic

"The New Year"

So this is the new year.
And i don't feel any different.
The clanking of crystal
Explosions off in the distance (in the distance).

So this is the new year
And I have no resolutions
For self assigned penance
For problems with easy solutions

So everybody put your best suit or dress on
Let's make believe that we are wealthy for just this once
Lighting firecrackers off on the front lawn
As thirty dialogs bleed into one

I wish the world was flat like the old days
Then i could travel just by folding a map
No more airplanes, or speed trains, or freeways
There'd be no distance that could hold us back.

There'd be no distance that could hold us back [x2]

So this is the new year [x4]

Names

Why or how do people give their kids names? Do they spend time researching common or uncommon names on the internet or do they name their kids after someone? Do they spend time thinking of names or do they just come up with it off of a whim? As an economist would say: "it depends" (thank you Mr. Nelson).

Names are people's identity. It's how we associate and know people. Without names, people wouldn't be able to differentiate between each other. But why are names so special? Why must they be different than the everyday names we use today, like telephone or chair or even garbage? Now I know some people, like celebrities, do like to do things like this and name their kid say.... Apple, but for the majority of the population, they pick names that are meant for people and not fruit or objects. Some people may name their kids as a honor to a loved one that has passed away. Parents do this so that the name of their beloved parent or grandparent lives on in the family. It doesn't necessarily mean that that person needs or is expected to be like that parent or grandparent, it just serves as a honor. Some parents name their kids after them because of a family tradition. It doesn't necessarily mean that the parent expects their kid to be like them, though sometimes it may be the case. Lots of times, though, it is just family tradition to keep a name going in the family. For example, my friend is named TJ Ryan IV and his dad is TJ Ryan III, but he isn't expected to be like nor is he anything like his father, it is just family tradition to name the first son TJ Ryan.

The reasons why and how people name their kids varies because of different family traditions and opinions. But one thing that is always constant is that a person's name reflects their identity and who they are. Many people keep the name that their parents gave them, and those who don't like it or don't believe it reflects who they are, can easily change their name to reflect who they believe they are. Names in our society have a deep importance to us because of how we believe people will perceive us. People put a name to a face and believe that they should go together nicely. So ask yourself, how did you get your name? Does it reflect who you are?